I think most folk know, we lost Rockydog on monday morning at the grand old age of 15... im in bits, its a long time .. im all numb..
SO THATS WHY THE SPAMMERS ARE OUT, COS THEY KNOW IM WEAKENED!.. gah!
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Emmabeth I am just so sorry for your very great loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. (((hugs)))
My avatar is Piper, my sweet Pembroke Corgi. b. 5/11/11
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Gentle hugs and much empathy.
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Oh I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking losing a much loved pet.
Sleep well, Rocky dog.
Sleep well, Rocky dog.
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So very sorry EB. RIP Rocky. Hugs
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just seeing this now.
Emma, so sorry.
Emma, so sorry.
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So sorry to hear about your loss......... it's never easy.
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Its just, ugh, there arent really words tbh.. hes been here for 15 years and now.. he's not, and my brain just can't compute that at all.
I think in part its because healthwise he was very very good for a very long time and I acted very quickly when he began to struggle - without a doubt I could have dragged it out for ages with pills and jabs and tests and all sorts, but that wasn't the right thing to do and I am cool with that decision.
Also i think its not helping that I chose not to have his ashes back - one a practical, reasonable, rational level, they arejust ashes, they are not him.. but then.. if I had, well I would have something! And now, really, I have nothing. Well, I have a smaller debt to the vets LOL but.. mm. Gonna perhaps rethink my position on the whole ashes/no ashes thing in future I think. (no one worry im good just thinking outloud here!)
I think in part its because healthwise he was very very good for a very long time and I acted very quickly when he began to struggle - without a doubt I could have dragged it out for ages with pills and jabs and tests and all sorts, but that wasn't the right thing to do and I am cool with that decision.
Also i think its not helping that I chose not to have his ashes back - one a practical, reasonable, rational level, they arejust ashes, they are not him.. but then.. if I had, well I would have something! And now, really, I have nothing. Well, I have a smaller debt to the vets LOL but.. mm. Gonna perhaps rethink my position on the whole ashes/no ashes thing in future I think. (no one worry im good just thinking outloud here!)
West Midlands based 1-2-1 Training & Behaviour Canine Consultant
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I don't have ashes back for that reason. They are not the spirit we love (who is only ever a thought away) and, frankly, is unlikely even to be their ashes.
However I do find it helpful to dedicate a place I can go and be quiet and think of them. I haven't always been able to do this, and I missed it when I couldn't.
For people who can, a little flowering tree or shrub or plant of some kind keeps growing in their memory and gives focus for those times when it swings round and hits you unexpectedly.
And I do find burning a candle helps me - but I do appreciate it isn't for everybody or every domestic situation. I just offer these thoughts in the hope that they may help some of us.
However I do find it helpful to dedicate a place I can go and be quiet and think of them. I haven't always been able to do this, and I missed it when I couldn't.
For people who can, a little flowering tree or shrub or plant of some kind keeps growing in their memory and gives focus for those times when it swings round and hits you unexpectedly.
And I do find burning a candle helps me - but I do appreciate it isn't for everybody or every domestic situation. I just offer these thoughts in the hope that they may help some of us.
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I'm sorry you're still struggling Emmabeth. I have never gotten my pets ashes back, but I always keep something that was just theirs - a collar, a favorite toy, a food dish, whatever, as my tangible keepsake of their time in my life. But it is my memories of them that really sustain me and make me smile and feel joy.
I have a friend who makes a plaster cast of one paw print from each of her pets. I think this would also be a lovely way to have a cherished keepsake of our furry friends. I think I will be doing this from now on myself. Anyway, all the best as your heart heals.
I have a friend who makes a plaster cast of one paw print from each of her pets. I think this would also be a lovely way to have a cherished keepsake of our furry friends. I think I will be doing this from now on myself. Anyway, all the best as your heart heals.
My avatar is Piper, my sweet Pembroke Corgi. b. 5/11/11
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Thanks
Today was odd.. I heard a dog barking in a car at the supermarket, this dogs bark sounded so much like Rockys, i had to go look and omg.. it was a black and tan staffie x type with the same facial markings as Rocky. My brain MADE me go look... 'in case its him'.. I know, crazy, I KNOW hes gone but my brain is like 'but but.. it miiiiiiight be him...'
Anyway I have to thank crazy car dog because when he saw me, he shoved his head onto the parcel shelf and did this crazy grinning barking WINDOW LICKING thing that was so totally hilarious and also totally NOT like Rocky that I laughed!
Today was odd.. I heard a dog barking in a car at the supermarket, this dogs bark sounded so much like Rockys, i had to go look and omg.. it was a black and tan staffie x type with the same facial markings as Rocky. My brain MADE me go look... 'in case its him'.. I know, crazy, I KNOW hes gone but my brain is like 'but but.. it miiiiiiight be him...'
Anyway I have to thank crazy car dog because when he saw me, he shoved his head onto the parcel shelf and did this crazy grinning barking WINDOW LICKING thing that was so totally hilarious and also totally NOT like Rocky that I laughed!
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Communal cremation and no ashes here with mine. It's just a shell and the essence will always be in my heart.
I have kept collars and bowls together with significant achievements but never look at them.
I have a 15 year old too and think I am prepared and reconciled to being without her some day soon.
I have kept collars and bowls together with significant achievements but never look at them.
I have a 15 year old too and think I am prepared and reconciled to being without her some day soon.