I know that you're going to ignore this, and I know dogs and horses are different animals, but...Rustyoldknife wrote:*sigh* I was hoping for more than just to 'give her more treats', but if you really believe that the word 'no' is a bad thing, then there's nothing more to say. You've convinced yourself that you don't like the word 'no' and have projected that on your pup, not the other way around.
It used to be thought that horses would not mimic people. You couldn't get the horse to shake its head by shaking your head, for example, or rear up by throwing your arms up (and not in a way that frightens the horse). However, this is just a side effect of "NO" training, which is traditional with horses. By telling the horse no, you said "you can't do anything but what I tell you." The horse wouldn't offer a new behavior in fear of being punished. However, with clicker training ("YES" training, treat training, positive reinforcement), the horse becomes willing to try new things, and will try to mimic the human, if he thinks that might get him a reward. There is a big difference, and ESPECIALLY in abuse cases, that positive reinforcement results in a more confident, less fearful animal. If anyone wants me to try to find this post about horses (I saw it ages ago but have a few sites where I might be able to find it), I can try.
Honestly, I feel sorry for your dog that you are not willing to try to help her overcome her fears, rather than force your opinion of how she should deal with them on her.