Just to let you all know - I might be AWOL, or quiet on here for a wee while as my Mother died on tuesday morning in not particularly pleasant circumstances (I found her collapsed in her house) and asides from my sister who lives several hundred miles away and is a particularly difficult person to deal with... she has no other relatives...
So, crash course in organising funerals and contacting friends from around the globe required.. and I will probably seem a little odd to those who know me relatively well on here (mind you I seem odd anyway, so maybes y'all wont!)...
I will continue to be modding this forum, keeping it tidy and answering posts as it gives me something to do and take my mind off things and I feel thats pretty important for me - but do bear with me if i go a bit strange from time to time.
Kind words, thoughts and candles lit are much appreciated and should anyone feel the urge to actively 'do' something (I know some people often feel that words are rather empty at times like these, but believe me, they really do help), then I can pass on details of a couple of charities she supported via PM.
I will be clinging dearly to my rather off key sense of humour as it has served me so very well in the past, so please no one tiptoe around me nor fear saying the wrong thing!
Also if anyone has any handy hints and tips on things that need doing wrt to selling houses, cars, etc I would be very greatful as I do feel a wee bit out of my depth with some things (yeah.. im 28 going on 14...).
Em
If I seem a little odd./quiet./cranky...(sad stuff, sorry)
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My sympathies to you and yours during this difficult time. I know all too soon both my grandmothers too will be passing on, 1 is over 100 and the other is 99 but has no desire to see 100.
I live quite far from each so I only get a weekly update. I have always been close to them and will miss them greatly. I expect when I visit my parents in a couple of weeks will be the last time I see them alive, and that has me somewhat depressed.
I find that hugging my 4-legged friends and working with them has help considerably with my moods.
Take care and blessings for you and your family
I live quite far from each so I only get a weekly update. I have always been close to them and will miss them greatly. I expect when I visit my parents in a couple of weeks will be the last time I see them alive, and that has me somewhat depressed.
I find that hugging my 4-legged friends and working with them has help considerably with my moods.
Take care and blessings for you and your family
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So sorry to hear of your loss emmabeth.
Yes, you'll need that sense of humour. Sometimes a rather black humour is all that keeps us going at a difficult time. S*d those people who think it is inappropriate. Anyone who has been there knows it is vital!
Regarding selling stuff .... IME sometimes it is better to sell at a lower price than we expect just to enable us to move on. Holding out for a better price might work in some economic climates but not at the moment.
Just do whatever your heart tells you is right; whether or not anyone else agrees, or whether polite society considers it 'appropriate'. I found it extremely theraputic to take bags of ma's 'stuff' and hurl them into the council skip
Lots of goodvibes on their way to you
xxxxx
Yes, you'll need that sense of humour. Sometimes a rather black humour is all that keeps us going at a difficult time. S*d those people who think it is inappropriate. Anyone who has been there knows it is vital!
Regarding selling stuff .... IME sometimes it is better to sell at a lower price than we expect just to enable us to move on. Holding out for a better price might work in some economic climates but not at the moment.
Just do whatever your heart tells you is right; whether or not anyone else agrees, or whether polite society considers it 'appropriate'. I found it extremely theraputic to take bags of ma's 'stuff' and hurl them into the council skip
Lots of goodvibes on their way to you
xxxxx
We are giving loads of stuff away because its very pleasing to find things nice new homes... but ive got a white van to deal with.. and a 2 bedroom bungalow as well in the fullness of time.... lol
Theres a few valuable books i want to find loving custodians for but ill ponder that a bit more...
Anyway im orf to bed happy in the knowledge htat ive at least sussed out the music... Ying tong iddle i po!
Theres a few valuable books i want to find loving custodians for but ill ponder that a bit more...
Anyway im orf to bed happy in the knowledge htat ive at least sussed out the music... Ying tong iddle i po!
I have pm you Em, I had to go through all this 2 years ago when my husband passed away. I somehow managed to find another 2 dogs to fill the gap he left.
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heart felt condolences Em, We just dealt with the passing of hubby's grandmother in March this year. I'm sorry you're having to go through all this alone, but at least you had a relationship with your mother, and wish for her belongings to be distributed with some feeling
(hub's uncle is in charge of grandma's estate and has alienated everyone and is being a right boob about it all... I've cursed that man 5 times to next Sunday )
I don't know how things work in the UK but I'm sure if you have an estate lawyer s/he will be able to coach you through things as well. Hug the pooches, grieve if you need to, it's natural. And know that there are perfect strangers on the other side of the pond who support you. <3
(hub's uncle is in charge of grandma's estate and has alienated everyone and is being a right boob about it all... I've cursed that man 5 times to next Sunday )
I don't know how things work in the UK but I'm sure if you have an estate lawyer s/he will be able to coach you through things as well. Hug the pooches, grieve if you need to, it's natural. And know that there are perfect strangers on the other side of the pond who support you. <3
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So sorry to hear about your loss emmabeth.
I'm not the best at providing emotional support (i have a terrible habit of my foot in it and saying the wrong thing), but i am quite good at providing practical support. I've found a couple of websites which might help -
http://www.facingbereavement.co.uk/OrganiseFuneral.html
http://www.co-operativefuneralcare.co.u ... eafuneral/
http://www.funeralsuk.com/funeral_servi ... hester.htm
http://www.funeraladvisers.org.uk/funeralbook.htm
Take care, hope you are getting plenty of hugs from the dogs x
I'm not the best at providing emotional support (i have a terrible habit of my foot in it and saying the wrong thing), but i am quite good at providing practical support. I've found a couple of websites which might help -
http://www.facingbereavement.co.uk/OrganiseFuneral.html
http://www.co-operativefuneralcare.co.u ... eafuneral/
http://www.funeralsuk.com/funeral_servi ... hester.htm
http://www.funeraladvisers.org.uk/funeralbook.htm
Take care, hope you are getting plenty of hugs from the dogs x
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