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Yesterday my boyfriend, Ted and I went to meet up with some friends, these are the friends that have the two long haired chihuahua boys that inspired me to get Ted. They're not close friends but they've lovely people and I have spent a few afternoons here and there with their dogs but all that was before I got Ted. I'd thought at that time that they were well behaved but wondered how I'd feel about them now that I have read up so much more on dog behaviour etc. I was also very aware that just because the people get on didn't mean that the dogs would (something else I've learned from here :D ).

Well I can report back that those two boys (Pan, 3 yrs, Chewy 2 years, both male long haired chihuahuas, both neutered at around 6 months :x ) are a NIGHTMARE :shock: . If they were big dogs their owners would be in lots of trouble with them I think but because they're little it all seems okish to them I think. After spending a few hours with them I feel that both dogs need some proper training and in particular steady socialisation but whilst I have some ideas how to raise it with my friend without causing offence I don't know whether it's a good idea to. I'm sure many of you will have been in this situation. I will not be introducing Ted to the boys again based upon what I saw but I feel it's a shame for them not to have some help from their mom and dad to sort out their issues. And I think that if their owners understood what was going on they would want to help. Anyway, let me tell you what they were like, this is my reading of it based upon what I've learnt from here, I'd also be interested in your views on how I have interpreted their behaviour to see how I did :D

Pan has no idea how to act around another dog. Given any opportunity he humped Ted, from behind, into his face etc etc. He also kept trying to sit on Ted and also to put his paws in his face. As far as I could tell Ted started off submitting to him and then rapidly because distressed (ears back, licking his lips etc). Their owners put it down to Pan being the "alpha" and telling Ted who was boss but to me Pan was stressed, had no idea how to interact and was plain rude. I intervened and after some repositioning of Pan and rewarding him for calm behaviour he could sniff Ted for a nano second before proceeding to try to hump him again. After this I made sure they were kept apart. I have no idea how Chewy would have been with Ted as Pan pushes Chewy out of the way/snaps at him (we'll come on to that) so I didn't really see them interact. I think their Dad is half way to realising that Pan has a problem as he said "that dog has issues, we keep talking about getting a dog whisperer :shock: in to him. I did say that I thought that Pan was rude and that they were in danger of him doing that to the wrong dog and that I didn't want Ted to pick up his bad habits (a bit of an excuse for keeping them apart) but I was aware that I'm the newbie owner and I didn't want to say too much incase they stopped listening, so I thought best to gather my thoughts. Apparently when they bought Chewy home Pan humped him for pretty much 3 days solid (why they let this happen is completely beyond me).

The boys fight, they can be trotting around or running together and out of no where there will be snarling and they'll roll around for a few seconds, separate and then go on as if nothing has happened. To me this did not look like dogs playing nicely together as I've seen Ted playing chase, and he play bows, runs, skips around and barks etc but I haven't seen dogs who know each other well play together so I don't know if this was normal, what I do know is if they had been big dogs it would have been very scary and there was no way I was letting Ted anywhere near them doing that (he seemed to want to keep away from them anyway). Very interested as to what you make of this?

Next up they have no obedience, I always have liver treats with me 8) and I have not yet met a dog that didn't go into a perfect sit and gaze at me to get the treat without even being asked. These two had NO idea, their owners said don't treat them unless they sit but they couldn't get them to. They beg, jump up etc the best I got from them was hold the treat in the right position for them to be sitting to eat it and then they still hover off the ground and try to nibble it out of your fingers. Holding onto it bizarrely did not make them back off, I gave up after a while as I couldn't be doing with the nibbling, they aren't my dogs to train and it was like the lights were on but no one was home :lol: which although I laugh isn't funny really.

Needless to say they don't loose leash walk (they're on the same flexi with a split).

Their owners said that they only let them off the lead if in a reasonably enclosed space (we were) and there are no other dogs or people around. That to me didn't sound like dogs with recall and I would have thought would be a step in a recall training programme rather than a solution to letting your dogs off lead. As soon as they are let off they go crazy and don't seem to come back when called or even check in with their owners. At one point a family appeared and their owners picked them up (Ted's snuffling on his long line minding his own business/coming for liver from me at this point), I wondered why until a straggling child tried to roller blade up the path (a good 20 or so meters away). They both went crazy, running over, barking (which scared the child and he fell over) and having to be fetched back by their owners. Thankfully Ted was still minding his own business with me at this point. Had they been large dogs I think this would have looked horrific, as it was it didn't look good at all. I didn't see them with any other dogs so I don't know what would have happened.

Whilst I don't want Ted so meet up with them again (and they are moving to LA in 12 months so it's easily avoidable) I feel sorry for the dogs. Pan clearly has issues (Chewy I'm not so sure) and they seem to really need some basic training.

I was going to say I'd chatted to a dog trainer about them and explain that the humping is probably fear based (along with the barking at children) and hope that Pan's discomfort prompts her into action but I really don't know hence wanting to talk on here about it. I do also worry that their fights will escalate and something bad will happen :( . I get the impression that Pan wasn't socialised properly as she says she over protected him then went to the other extreme with Chewy but I don't know to what extent she did this, I know she picked Pan up whenever she thought he was scared.

Am interested to hear your views, sorry for the loooong post.

And I am so proud of Ted as he was so much better behaved and intelligent than those two rascals! I almost feel like I'd like to take those two one at a time and give them some basic training and mind work as I'm sure it would make a difference (I'm not going to though!) :D
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I think you have very accurately assessed the situation there!

Pan sounds anxious, he doesn't know what he ought to do or how to cope with meeting a new dog, so he humps it. Pretty classic!

Sounds like these two have never been socialised and are suffering from 'little dog syndrome' (which btw, it sounds as if Ted will NEVER have :D :D), ie, their behaviour is allowed to go unchecked and no one sees any real reason to do anything, because they are so small.

As at least one of the couple has mentioned getting someone in about it, ie, a dog whisperer, I would say something because the chances are they will get someone in who talks rubbish about alpha and pack theory and dominance.

Explain that Pan is anxious and doesnt know what to do, that humping to him is a good coping strategy in this situation as he quickly finds out if the other dog is a threat or will be squashed by his over the top rude behaviour, and it feels good as well!

He must be stopped from doing it and redirected, he can have a big soft toy to hump in times of stress rather than a dog or a person.

Clicker training would be ideal and if you pitch it that you only do 3 - 5 minutes at a time, so its super easy to fit in several sessions per dog, per day that should help.

Check out Dogstardaily.com, as there are lots of blogs, articles, free printable sheets on there that you can give them, and another top tip would be to walk them seperately and ensure every walk is a training walk.
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Hard problem. :?

I think you are right to keep Ted away before he either learns some bad manners or develops some unwanted behaviour. I'm pleased that this is relatively easy for you to do without causing offence.

For the rest, badly-behaved dogs are like alcoholism - first the owner has to admit there is a problem. My experience is that people don't want help until they ask for it (and so often not then :roll: but instead affirmation that their dog is fine). Their mouths fall open and out tumble all the excuses.

Then the next phase is they ask the butcher, the baker, the candlestick-maker, the next-door neighbour's aunt's window-cleaner's brother-in-law - ANYBODY except a professional trainer. They tell you how LUCKY you are that your dog is good :evil:

Finally they MAY ask for help - in which case you can help them if you want, or send them here, or both.

Forgive me if I'm snarky tonight...... you wouldn't believe what I was told earlier about a 'naughty dog' :o


Emmabeth has given a much more constructive answer.....
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Do you know if they've taken them to any training classes? I think, depending on how you think they'd react, I'd suggest that they did - maybe you know of one nearby you could recommend. Another line would be 'I read on an internet forum about a dog who used to do just that - the owner got such great advice from the forum that the dog now has perfect recall, does great around other dogs, loves chiildren, walks to heel, dances the pasa double... Here, I'll write down the web address for you...' :wink:

After reading about Ted on here I was wondering if I've ever seen a chihuahua (one day I'll be able to spell it without checking back) walk nicely on lead. Along with tiny yorkies, they seem to spend most of their time twirling with only two legs on the ground. I dare say because owners can drag them along with barely noticing, many don't feel the need to train them :?
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First up can I say all 3 of you have made me smile :D Nettle, that didn't come across as snarky (maybe a touch of gracious hostility :wink: ), it is precisely why I am hesitant in saying anything.

The owners are very relaxed and I think if I go with the Pan is anxious angle (explaining the old dominance theory as being outdated), all in a gentle way I may lead the owners to water then hopefully they will drink. If not then at least I have tried with the best of intentions :D

Pan went to puppy class Judy but Chewy didn't, they say that Chewy was easy as Pan taught him loads but I think that was actually just toilet training. I don't think these guys get ANY training now or mental games to play, or training on walks :cry:

There was also a moment when Stuart and I couldn't look at each other as our faces would have given us away when they asked if we were neutering Ted. I said not until he was fully mature at the earliest, they went on to say how we should do it if he had any behavioural problems as they had with theirs and that "it had made a difference, calming them down, although not for the first 12 months and not that much really" :lol: :lol: :lol: Again, funny but not.
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JudyN wrote:After reading about Ted on here I was wondering if I've ever seen a chihuahua (one day I'll be able to spell it without checking back) walk nicely on lead. Along with tiny yorkies, they seem to spend most of their time twirling with only two legs on the ground. I dare say because owners can drag them along with barely noticing, many don't feel the need to train them :?
Just think chi - hua - hua :D

Neither have I Judy but I'm working on it :lol: Actually Ted is getting better and better all the time and if you caught us at the right moment you'd be able to say you had, although we're a way off just being able to pop out and know he'll walk calmly along side me.

Most of the chihuahaus I've seen pull like crazy and end up half walking, half dancing along. Ted's main problem is wanting to sniff everything, stop if he's uncertain about something so its treat central on our walks and back breaking work for me :wink: but it's steadily getting better, as is his attention on me :D
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I do find tiny dogs much much harder to train to walk nicely, I just can't bend that far and they end up jumping up and down for treats!

Have you thought about carrying a loooooooong target stick (you can get collapsible aluminium ones) and having Ted target the stick as you walk??
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I do find myself thinking how much easier it would be to train a large dog to do this! We are making steady progress though and we're getting some nice still sits when I ask him to and lot of attention on me so I'm happy to keep on as we're going for the time being. The most challenging bit is getting him going when we first set out and this is where I find myself bum in the air repeatedly :shock: after that I'm only treating periodically now so much easier. Plus we're using the technique from a puppy class (positive training obviously :D ) where the lose lead walking builds up each week so I want to keep it consistent with that for now. We have a few weeks left of these classes, if I'm not happy then I'll look at the targeting idea :D .
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They tell you how LUCKY you are that your dog is good
Haha Nettle so true! The amount of times I've heard that. Along with, oh, I'd have a dog if I knew it would be as good as Ben!

The other day I went to my cousins and my auntie said she was trying to teach their two collies to do "paw". I said give me a couple of treats and I'll show you what to do...so I held the treat in my hand, waited til the dog pawed it and gave them the treat. My auntie then said..."oh look, they know what "paw" means! I was trying to do it without the treat!"
So again, I had to explain that they didn't know what "paw" meant yet, but after a few goes they knew that if they lifted a paw they get a treat so they keep doing it.

Clare, it's a tricky one. I've been in similar situations and it's hard to speak to people about dog training without them thinking that you are being big headed and thinking you know best etc etc. Like Nettle I am also slightly bitter about the topic having seen boyfriends parents feed the puppy from their plates yesterday and then wonder why she suddenly started begging for food the next day! In my experience trying to help only leads to the owners becoming defensive and argumentative and winds up with you feeling frustrated!

Also, its harder with several dogs to prevent them barking at stuff on walks. I'm trying not to let the puppy pick up bad habits from our other two but its tricky!
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bendog wrote:Clare, it's a tricky one. I've been in similar situations and it's hard to speak to people about dog training without them thinking that you are being big headed and thinking you know best etc etc. Like Nettle I am also slightly bitter about the topic having seen boyfriends parents feed the puppy from their plates yesterday and then wonder why she suddenly started begging for food the next day! In my experience trying to help only leads to the owners becoming defensive and argumentative and winds up with you feeling frustrated!

Also, its harder with several dogs to prevent them barking at stuff on walks. I'm trying not to let the puppy pick up bad habits from our other two but its tricky!
I am worried for the dogs sake about approaching it incorrectly and not getting anywhere but I feel like I need to try (maybe I need to learn from experience it doesn't work :lol: ). I am hoping that by saying I've taken some advice as I wanted to understand the humping and that Pan is actually anxious rather than purely trying to dominate they'll want to do something (then I point them in the right direction, I think they already know it's a problem but misunderstand it). Rather than try to advise them on everything I'm hoping that's the one that will open the door to them doing more training, etc etc as it will become apparent there is a wider problem. Explaining the whole problem on here was more to get it out of my system and see if I had interpreted things reasonably well.

The things that made me most upset bizarrely was their almost glassy stares when I was trying to get them to sit, there just didn't seem to be any brain activity directed at anything other than let's chew it out of her fingers :roll: .

I've sent her a message with the liver treat recipe on it as they apparently like them when they've had them before (I assume as "treats" rather than training treats), when she replies to this I'm going in ... wish me luck :D

If she ends up on here I might have to request this thread is deleted :shock:
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ClareMarsh wrote:when she replies to this I'm going in ... wish me luck

Good luck, old chap - steer clear of the ack-ack, what?
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Nettle, I think you have really lost it now :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

With regards to bending down to reward small dogs, Mary Ray has developed a thing which allows you to reward without bending down, it looks a bit like a litter picker and works in the same way, but instead of grabbing it opens a little container and the dog helps itself to the treat, then you lift up the stick to refill. Have a look at her website, I'm sure it will be on there.
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Do you mean this? http://www.maryray.co.uk/product_pages/ ... treat.html I will keep this in mind, although at present I get an extra bonus work out whenever I walk him :lol:

This evening it was almost like he had read this thread and decided that he's happy the way things are. His walking was close to perfect and when I asked for a sit he sat right next to me and stayed there til I moved off / if he did get up he realised what he was doing and sat back down without being asked :D
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That's the one!
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Yesterday my boyfriend, Ted and I went to meet up with some friends
It sounds like you are saying Ted is your boyfriend!
Made me giggle. Though of course I know what you mean!
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